Most of you already know the news, but putting it here, in an actual blog post, somehow makes it feel official. We’re having a baby girl! To be honest, I would have been just as overjoyed with either a boy or a girl, but there’s something so exciting about stepping into this new chapter—the “other side,” if you will. Kevin and I are beyond grateful for all of the love, messages, comments, and DMs you’ve sent our way. Your kindness means more than you know.
Nate’s Reaction (and My Questions About It)
One of the questions I’ve been asked the most is: “How does Nate feel about becoming a big brother?”
The short answer: he seems excited! But whether he truly understands what’s going on is another story. He’ll proudly tell anyone who asks that “my little sister is in mommy’s belly,” which melts my heart every single time. Still, I don’t know if he really grasps what that means—how could he, really?
Surprisingly, I’m less worried about how he’ll adjust and more about how we will adjust. I know Nate will be okay. Sure, there will be bumps along the way as he learns to share our attention with this new little person, but kids are resilient. I’m confident he’ll find his rhythm. My bigger concern is how Kevin and I will juggle the chaos of two children.
The Reality Check Moments
To be totally honest, there are days that give me pause. Just yesterday, for example, we spent the day in the city with Nate, who has recently given up naps. Let’s just say he was… extra spirited. And by spirited, I mean moody, cranky, and more challenging than usual.
In those moments, my mind races: Soon, we’ll be navigating all of this while also caring for a newborn. How in the world are we going to survive it?
I know plenty of parents juggle more than two little ones and come out the other side intact, but I also want to be transparent here. There are moments when the thought of it all feels overwhelming. Parenthood is beautiful, yes, but it’s also hard—and I don’t think enough people say both truths out loud at the same time.
Reminders I Hold Onto
Whenever the spiral of what ifs starts, I try to ground myself with one reminder: this season goes by so fast. Too fast.
The newborn nights that feel endless, the toddler tantrums that test every ounce of patience, even the messy, unpredictable days—one day we’ll look back and realize how fleeting it all was. That perspective helps me breathe through the chaos and find gratitude, even when things feel impossibly hard.
I also know myself well enough to admit that I’ll need help. And that’s okay. Extra hands and support don’t make us weaker parents—they make us better ones.
The Beauty of Sibling Bonds
One thing I keep coming back to is how special it will be to watch Nate step into the role of big brother. Both Kevin and I grew up as only children, so the sibling bond is something we never got to experience firsthand. Getting to watch it unfold between our children feels like such a gift.
That’s what I look forward to most—seeing their relationship blossom, the little inside jokes, the arguments and reconciliations, the fierce loyalty and love that only siblings can understand.
Looking Ahead
As the days pass and my belly grows, my excitement grows right alongside it. Of course, there are nerves—there always will be—but they live right next to the joy.
Life is about to get even more chaotic, but I have a feeling it will also be infinitely more full. And if there’s one thing I’ve learned about parenthood so far, it’s that the beauty almost always outweighs the hard.
So here we are, officially sharing: our family is growing, and we can’t wait to meet our baby girl.
